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the game is afoot: unconventional

7/10/2020

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Of all the actors who have played Sherlock Holmes, hands down my favourite is Jeremy Brett.  For those who have missed the Granada adaptation, it is worth seeking out.  I have to admit to a certain fondness for Benedict Cumberbatch, but Brett is the Holmes that runs around in my head when I am reading the books. 

The adaptation Brett starred in was a faithful interpretation of the books and revelled in the period detail.  In such a constrained time as the late Victorian and Edwardian eras, Holmes' lack of conventionality stands out. By any measure Holmes leads an unconventional life. He is indifferent to the social norms of his times and impatient with convention.  He has the means and social standing to choose his own life and to live according to his preferences. 

It may seem that unconventionality is not a quality that relates to conflict. However, I think it can be truly important. In conflict, you will have a support team of people who want the best for you as they see it. Parties in conflict need to feel free to seek unconventional solutions which meet their needs. This requires reflection and an ability listen to yourself. 

Sometimes as parties move to resolution, one of them will say something like "but how will I explain this to [name of lawyer / significant person]".  They are reaching for a solution, but are held back by concern about how it will be perceived by others. In reality, your lawyer will support you and your support team will be there for you, but only you will have to live the conflict and the solution.  Being able to choose a solution which may not be conventional from others' perspectives but which meets your needs and those of the other party is the key to finding resolution.

Holmes is empowered to accomplish incredible feats and acts of heroism through his belief in his own methods. In a way he is free, free from the expectations of others, free from societal constraints and free to listen to himself. 

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