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The Game is Afoot: obsession

21/10/2020

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Between the books and the screen adaptations there is one significant difference.  In the books, Moriarty is described as the Napoleon of Crime, yet he appears in only two stories. Whilst Holmes acknowledges his importance as an adversary, he is not the only source of crime, evil and plotting.

In screen adaptations, Moriarty is regularly shown to be the puppet master and the focus of Holmes's obsession.  Moriarty is behind every twitching curtain and nasty plot. Perhaps this intense relationship was most striking in the BBC adaptation, Sherlock.

in conflict, we can become obsessed with the other person.  They become a target of blame, they are all bad. They have hurt us intentionally. This may be true. It may not be true.

Regardless, the question remains is it helpful? In Luskin's Forgive for Good, he suggests that when we focus on the person who has hurt us and continue to focus our blame on them, we cede power. We give power over how we feel, and how to hurt us to a person who probably does not have our best interests at heart. 

Luskin asks us to reclaim our power.  To change our story about what happened from a victim story, to one in which we are the hero. To refocus our attention on to our well-being and forgive the person who hurt us.  I will be sharing some blogs about forgiveness over the next few weeks.

Sherlock, never learns to leave his obsession. In the books and also the adaptations he vanquishes his enemy.  In real life this is not an option, better to learn to keep our power and to heal ourselves.

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