LEARNING TO CROW

In the Chinese zodiac the Rooster is known for being confident.
 
In mediation, I often see parties who struggle with their confidence to find their voice. Being confident that you have a right to be heard and that you have the ability to represent yourself is important. One of the criticisms of modern mediation is that the process is based on being able to speak up for yourself. The criticism is that this is not easy or possible for everyone.
 
I can acknowledge the truth of this and think of parties who did struggle to speak confidently.  However, I also think about how each of those people through the mediation process, grew in confidence. 
 
Mediation is a very structured process. The mediator is there to enforce ground rules which require respectful communication. The mediation process itself is based on the idea that each party should have the opportunity to express themselves. This may be the first time that some parties have had this opportunity. In my experience, people do gain in confidence.
 
Confidence is an important strength in mediation.  
 

• Confidence to speak for yourself.  
• Confidence to be able to hear different ideas.
• Confidence to learn new things.

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